Dating an ex drug addict
“Most people are drawn to partners at their same level of emotional development,” says Neil Strauss, author of .
“Instead of trying to ‘fix’ the other person, get help for what you can control: yourself.” Who you choose as a partner offers a wealth of insights into your own challenges. Use what you discover to heal yourself and the relationship if it’s one worth investing in.
In the early months of recovery, you’ve given up a lot — your go-to coping strategy, your social network, your approach to life.
It’s natural to look to the comfort of new love to counteract the loneliness.
“Safety should be at the forefront of everyone’s mind,” says Stan Tatkin, Psy D, MFT, author and assistant clinical professor at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA.
Does the person show signs of addictive thinking or behavior? “There’s no forcing this process of knowing, only ways of fooling ourselves.He's also still very much fascinated with everything drugs, mostly movies but also studies, press articles and documentaries.At times, I get a little turned off or annoyed by hearing the stories or by always having to watch drug movies and it gets upset about it.Does this person share your interests and have the characteristics you’re looking for in a partner? It takes approximately a year to know another person as separate from our fantasies about them and us.So the proper etiquette is to be a stranger, which is what you are.” Compounding the fact that we know very little about a date, our brains release a powerful cocktail of arousing chemicals, compromising our judgment and making us more vulnerable to danger. Tatkin describes it, at the mercy of chemicals that drive us to procreate.